Stadium Merdeka
8:00pm
一切已经发生了… 希望发生的一切也许是一种安排的。
走得太近,也许给她压力,走得太远,也许看不见她,这也好… 也许...
距离与我们也许搭上了缘分,也许已经开始比以往变得越来越远,越来越模糊… 是否已经开始了?
也许一切是习惯,也许是爱?也许是习惯?
我不知道…
我不知道…
我不知道…
你相信「Mr. Right」存在,還是「Mr.Rights」存在?
理想的伴侶真的就那麼一個嗎?還是有很多個呢?
往往許多人在抉擇伴侶時,容易東想西想,不知所措,
就是因為害怕一時做錯決定,
看錯人,造成終生的遺憾。
諾貝爾文學獎得主蕭伯納說:
「此 時此刻在地球上,約有兩萬個人適合當你的人生伴侶, 就看你先遇到哪一個,如果在第二個理想伴侶出現之前,你已經跟前一個人發展出相知相惜、互相信賴的深層關係, 後者就會變成你的好朋友,但是若你跟前一個人沒有培養 出深層關係,感情就容易動搖、變心,直到你與這些理想伴侶候選人的其中一位擁有穩固的深情,才是幸福的開始,漂泊的結束」。
愛上一個人靠際遇.持續愛一個人靠努力
愛上一個人不需要靠努力,只需要靠「際遇」,是上天的安排。
但是「持續地愛一個人」就要靠「努力」。
在愛情的經營中,順暢運轉的要素就是溝通、體諒、包容與自制(面臨誘惑有所自制)。
有許多人總是為「際遇」所迷惑與苦惱,意念不停、慾念不斷、爭逐不散, 而忘了培養經營感情的能力才是幸福的關鍵。
所以不要去追問到底誰才是我的Mr.Right,而是要問說在眼前的伴侶關係中,我能努力到什麼程度、成長到什麼程度 。
如果沒有培養出經營幸福的能力, 就算真的Mr.Right出現在你身邊,幸福依然會錯過的,
而活在猶疑與遺憾當中,這不就是許多「愛情虛無症」的遭遇與心態嗎?
若你此刻已有一位長久相伴的伴侶,不要再隨便三心二意地猶疑了。
我們往往不易察覺感情中的一個陷阱,就是「近親生慢侮」,
也就是經濟學中的鐵律「邊際效益遞減法則」: 跟你在一起越久的人,就越容易麻木與忽視,而新鮮的「際遇」總是那麼動人可愛。
在感情對待中,難免有摩擦與無心的傷害, 而且得罪自己的次數累加起來最多的人,往往是跟我們在一起最久、最親近的人;
而新歡呢?又還沒開始有得罪你的機會, 再加上他的刻意討好,所以新歡怎麼看怎麼可愛,舊愛怎麼看怎麼討厭。
請別忘記:
新歡身上總是有不確定的未知數,舊愛身上就是有難得的熟悉感、確定感、信賴感。
千萬不要隨便在偶然的「際遇」中迷失了自己,錯放了幸福溫暖的手。
This is the Second cake after PCCG. At the late afternoon. I was been called by my fren who r in yellow colour shirt.
Conversation:
She: Come to IOI Mall... just come.
Me: Okay. 15 minutes.
So, I went to shower and straight taken off to IOI Mall. I took the parking ticket, enter IOI parking teritory and parked. I went off from the car and walk straight to the King's Cake Shop.
I saw them was outside. I was quiet suprise to see a cake and a a girl(leng lui) that i'd never knew. Okay. It was quiet nervous when I walking toward them, I'm so afraid of dunno what should I talk to them.
I reached them and setttle down. After introduction, I told her this...
" Hey, so sorry ooo. The 1st time u met me have to celebrate my birthday, u dun mind one ooo."
kkekeek~~ nothing happened she just keep laughing. It was hot outside of IOI so we decided to move to other place to celebrate my b'day. So we went "Old Town Kopitiam". They sang happy b'day song to me in a softly and gentle way cause it was full house in the rest.. Can't believe.
After that, it was a whole day out until night. Where another fren almost all school-mates goin to celebrate with me.
To be Continue...
But soon after their rescue from Egypt, the Israelites complained to Moses, saying, "You brought us out into the wilderness to die. We have no water and we have no food."
Showing great mercy, the Lord responded to their doubt by bringing them water. And He also said, "Watch, I will rain bread from heaven for you; and you shall go out every morning and gather it." He did, and they called it "manna."
Soon this nation camped around a mountain in the desert of Sinai. Suddenly, there was thunder and lightning on the mountain, and out of a thick cloud, the sound of a trumpet blew so loud that all the people trembled. Then the Lord, cloaked in fire, descended on the mountain, and the whole mountain shuddered.
The Lord called Moses up to the top of the mountain and gave him the Ten Commandments. |
And the Lord called Moses up to the top of the mountain and spoke these words to him: "I am the Lord your God, who brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of slavery." And as the Lord spoke, He wrote these ten commandments on tables of stone.
The Lord gave His perfect standard of holiness through these laws, but then He also showed Moses what people must do when they broke those laws.
The Lord said, "You must build an altar and dedicate it to Me. You shall make sacrifices on it and I will bless you. The blood will be a covering for your sin and I will forgive you."